Our obsession with the shocking is becoming more and more evident. It’s almost like we won’t stop scrolling to ‘like’ or click links to read news articles without it. Then there’s those big caption titles, even verging on the #horrific. Whatever it takes to stop us and make us look, and hopefully take notice.


I wonder, too, what is it that we are actually being influenced by anymore? I know myself that I’ve become desensitised to much of what I see due to the overstimulation my mind has received over the last 5 years. True, there has been the most beautiful explosion of art, creativity, and boundary pushing which has been unprecedented, and in many ways incredibly inspiring and uplifting! The gorgeous pictures and videos we can view, streamed from around the world instantaneously is truly amazing!

Only are we losing our own uniquely creative, genuine ideas due to looking at those of so many of others? Are we losing moments so precious that could be spent discovering incomprehensible adventures and our own personal value?…


I used to read books, devour health articles, magazines, and spend time writing in my journal or even here (online), or for various websites. I used to underline quotes, and send real handwritten letters to the people I love. Something I’m making an effort to reinstate in my life. Writing is great. Books require focus and excellent cognition.

I’ve noticed too, in my short and mostly part-time career as a model there’s been huge paradigm shifts since the entrance of Social Media!

It’s like anything and everything should be given it’s moment in the sun, no matter what it is. Whether the subject in question is a good thing or not is just personal opinion. An image though, can speak a thousand words! Our minds are like sponges absorbing all of it and this, whether we like it or not, contributes to shaping who we become.

Wrinkles for instance. Yes, beautiful!! You can be beautiful at any age! But is that another indication of marketers trying to get our attention with images of the extremes of life. Ps. I’m all for wrinkles as they are inspiring! You can read my post regarding ageism within the fashion industry here.

For now the point I want to make is that once upon a time (like, only 50 years ago) it seemed it was more about creating a really inspiring and beautiful image that would endure the test of time. Even cause people to ‘want what she/he’s having’…Whereas now I find there’s more of an element to trying to shock us into stopping at all. So that we even pause to look at what’s being marketed to us. Because there is so much real (not to mention the unreal) beauty to be seen everywhere online, that we may not notice brands, news, or stories anymore.

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It’s like an image must be extremist. We’re becoming obsessed with extremism and less and less with real stories and inspiration.


These all embracing body love images, I fully understand. I get what it’s saying. Yes! Of course we should all embrace one another. Absolutely! We should embrace ourselves! But what about being our best version of ourselves? That’s open to debate.

I don’t know. Maybe at 40 I’m just a bit too old fashioned, or too shaped by my own era. What do you think? What visual imagery do you want to see pop up next? It’s actually more up to YOU than you realise. Much of who you follow and aspire to be like will determine, what the media, art and fashion industry and Insta-famous throw at us next. I do feel for the masses of young, beautiful hearts following ‘celebrities’ who aren’t actually worth celebrating. Of course, everyone should be accepted and celebrated. But not everyone should be held up as a celebrity. Once you had to be either accomplished, excellent in a given field, or extremely good looking to get any kind of ‘celebrity’ title. Now there’s celebrities who’re just that purely for having a gigantic mole protruding from their navel, an excellent backside, or something or other…Nice or not-so-nice you know what I’m saying.


childvogue“Guard your eyes, ears, and all your senses, for they are the windows to the SOUL.”

What is good. What isn’t.

Who even cares anyway. I feel that the real losers with much of these so called great ‘progressively artistic’ changes will be the children. They just observe. And are shaped by…What they see. What is modelled before them. If you’re an influencer, I challenge you to be real, true, positive, kind, and uplifting.

Amanda and her Cousin Amy: Mary Ellen Mark photographed Amanda Marie Ellison, 9 (right), and Amy Minton Velasquez, 8, in Valdese, N.C., in 1990.

There’s enough of the other stuff to sink a battleship floating around out there.